Why you must be reliable!
THE NEED TO BE RELIABLE
Way back I had a friend. I mentioned “had” coz we are no longer in touch. One of his best qualities was that he had a great sense of humor, had the ability to light up any situation, infuse so much wit into every statement that people were left wondering how a person could come up with such brilliant thinking. In addition to this, he was really hardworking and prolific in his ability to deal with challenges and deadlines.
There was one attribute however that dimmed all these to a large extent. And that was his unreliability factor. For e.g. he would tell me that he would have dinner with me. At the appointed time when I would go and call him on his cell from downstairs, I would not get a response. When I would go up and ask his mom she would say “But he has already left with someone else”. It was highly infuriating at the very least. Later on when I called him, there would be some excuse or the other made saying either that program came up suddenly or he had no balance to call up. This used to happen very regularly mind you. There were others too who were annoyed with him on this count.
At the time of writing this, it apparently does not look as if such small things need to be made a big ado of. But believe me when one is in that situation everything changes. There was some dissension between us on some count (some similar thing occurred) and now we are hardly in touch. During my silent moments I used to wonder how one attribute like this could have such bad repercussions.
Not the one to be fazed by the loss of a friend I resolved to make something splendid out of it. I resolved to be one of the most reliable people ever. There is a distinction. I do not mean to say that every piece of work entrusted to me would get done. But I did mean that whatever was promised would be delivered. And that nothing would be promised until it had a 100% chance of being completed. Even if it were not completed, it would be in such a way that I couldn’t have done any better. I made a mental resolution and viewed any breach of conduct as a big mistake, vowing to take responsibility for the same and make amends.
There is a strong invisible bond that develops with others when you become that way. You are almost looked at in awe. I have seen it happen. Being trustworthy obliterates many other shortcomings that you might have and being undependable obliterates other strong points you may have.I do have another friend of mine who is exemplary at keeping up his word on MOST matters. Needless to say he has won the admiration and adoration of many of his friends.
It is something I am not able to explain. I wrestle with words when I say this because such things are best experienced and not explained.
The reason for becoming reliable and dependable in fact goes much deeper. By now most of you would have heard about the subconscious and its powers in helping you getting to where you want to. Not keeping up your promises to others invariably presupposes the fact that you don’t keep promises to yourself. In other words it’s just a way of life. When you do this for a considerable length of time, your subconscious is convinced that whatever you say your desires are is just lip service. (the story of the wolf and the boy) it rejects your conscious desires. When this happens a major source of support to you is cut off. No wonder so many of us struggle to make our dreams a reality.
So what can be done about it? For the next 30 days (it takes around this much time to imprint new ways of thought and action) make a list of what you want to do which is good for you but have been putting off due to some reason. Make the tasks simple yet a little challenging and then do it.
Examples include:
Day 1:- jog for 15 mins
Day 2:- get up at 6 sharp no matter how I feel.
Day 3:- drink 3 liters of water
Day 4:- train with weights for half an hour
Day 5:- resolve all issues that come to me with cheer and not get worked up whatsoever
Day 6:- Take 2 painful incidents from your past and search, really search for any piece of wisdom it has.
(If you skip even one day make a fresh list and start. You are now on the path to a more meaningful life. Looking back is not an option)
You get the idea. All tasks must be aimed at making your life better in some small way but yet not so challenging that your inertia exceeds your will to do the same. By the end of 30 days, you will have a sense of peace and immense confidence you’ve never known before. You will also be well on your way to receiving support from your subconscious thereby greatly shortening the time gap between what you want and having it fulfilled.
