Valuing people who love you
VALUING PEOPLE WHO LOVE YOU
Just some time back I watched this really fascinating movie called sliding doors. I am basically not fond of action movies. When I was in my teens, I had more than a fair share and now it seems like an ordeal to sit that long. I have developed however an intense liking for films that relate most closely to daily life.
The heroine of this film loves her man so much that she works in a restaurant while he sits at home under the pretext of writing a novel which seems to go on forever. In the meanwhile this guy has an affair with another lady and one day when she (the heroine) comes home early, she is shell shocked to find her man in the arms of another lady. On top of it, this other lady tells her I am carrying his baby. I am sorry that you have to come to know of it this way.
As the movie went on, a potpourrie of feelings unfolded so beautifully. So many things struck me. How many of us wound people who mean the world to us just because we were tempted to do certain things at a particular time? The guy in the movie had all the time in the world to have a roaring affair and could not resist temptation. He did what was most pleasant to him. Had his girl thought of the same, then?? I know of so many girls who would not even interact with guys who do not have a steady source of income and no immediate future. Not only did the heroine of this film love him, but she also put herself through great inconvenience to see that he was kept in comfort so that he could FULFILL HIS DREAMS.
I have interacted with people who keep jumping from one relationship into another just for the fun of it just not caring what the other person goes through. It was scary to note that these people almost become incapable of loving. All that matters to them is their own happiness and pleasure.
The guy in the movie was an inveterate liar and completely disregarded she did for him. Watching the same was disturbing. Eventually when they split, he slowly realizes that she was irreplaceable.
In an attempt to win her back he tells her more lies. On top of this, his already depraved soul is not able to come out of the second relationship and all sorts of double standard games are played. To cut a long story short, the heroine of the movie finds a wonderful warm caring man and the other guy loses the other lady too. I understand that it is only a movie but what struck me was that I have seen almost exact instances in real life. Often when we realize things they are too late. This article is not about having affairs.
We take so many things for granted. There are acts which we do without thought and regret later. One way to refrain from doing such things is to contemplate what consequences it might have and then honestly answer if we could take it if similar things are done to us! How many of us treasure and really cherish what our loved ones do for us? How many of us go through discomfort to see that the people who mean the world to us are kept happy? What is the use getting all the wisdom when it is too late? Something to ponder about.
