What to do when your feeling stuck and hopeless!
WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU ARE FEELING STUCK AND HOPELESS
Been quite a while since I have written, my apologies to my readers as was a little busy lately. How original was that excuse? Have been meeting quite a few who have told me that nothing seems to be working in their life from time to time and that they are feeling quite despondent. It was then that I felt I could write something about the same. Something that I personally do.
To start with how many of you have been at a crossroads in life wherein you do not kind of know what exactly is happening? Things seem to go around in circles. There seems to be some improvement then suddenly a period where nothing seems to be working. Believe me I have faced so many that I have lost count.
Now when things seem to be happening and suddenly this road block comes up again, I have come up with something that makes me feel not only better but also nudges me in the direction of what it is that I want in life. (All this done under expert guidance and therefore not some fluffy self improvement stuff)This is what I do when I feel I am in an absolute impasse. And by impasse I mean a real impasse.
For eg:-
a) Recordings that were supposed to come up getting cancelled.
b) The phone numbers of friends being unreachable or switched off.
c) The feeling that I am wasting my life and going nowhere
d) Seeing far less talented people ( dont mean to sound vain) making
much more money
e) People calling me up and offering peanuts ( meaning nearly a
fraction 1/16 th of what I generally get paid)
f) My close ones comparing me with my peers and showing how badly
I am doing for myself.
This is just a small list of what keeps happening.
And this is the five step process as to how I counteract the feelings of hopelessness and sadness which am reasonably sure would be of great help to you.
IDENTIFYING PATTERNS:-
By this I mean taking accountability. From my previous articles you know I am a deep believer in creating ones destiny and not being bogged down by fate. I realize that there are certain patterns are repeating. For eg things just start getting good and it leaves my hand or in other words good things not going to their fruition. So this is a pattern I have. How do I get rid of it? Because if I do not do something about the same I will most likely forever be affected by a similar chain of events. If something similar happens to you in any area of your life sit down and think deeply about patterns being repeated.
RIDDING YOURSELF OF ENERGETIC BLOCKS:-
Dr Joe Vitale in his best seller THE ATTRACTOR FACTOR talks about the five step process of getting what you want in life. One of them is the step get clear . By this he means getting rid of energetic blocks within your system. Otherwise these blocks keep attracting a similar chain of events in your life. If all that I am saying is sounding stupid to you, you can be forgiven. If all this is sounding nonsensical that s fine. I felt the same. But the fact is there are many people like Dr Joe who are committed to making this world a better place to live in. I choose to believe in them because their teachings and writing inspire me indescribably and act as a safety net that catches me when I am down and struggling.
So back to our point. How do you get clear? There are quite a few methods available. But the one that I use is called EFT or the emotional freedom technique. You might have heard of it. You can download the free manual at www.emofree.com .Reading it was such a mind expanding experience for me. After that I was like Whoaa! There are such great ways to get rid of blocks that can hold you back and keep recreating events you DO NOT WANT
THE HOLY SHRINE:-
By this I mean taking about twenty minutes to half an hour a day to clearly identify what it is that I want in life and visualize it irrespective of what is happening to me right now. I also incorporate EFT into my time. Once you read the manual you would exactly get an idea as to how to customize it for your issues.
TAKING DAILY ACTION:-
No matter how bad my situation is there is always SOME SMALL STEP, some small thing that I can do to better my situation, like phoning a music director, practicing a new style of singing, watching an inspirational video, reading a biography about someone I want to model. Strangely after all that, at the end of the day I feel happy and satisfied that I have indeed been productive.
GRATITUDE:-
I make it a point to savor every moment in the day that I truly enjoy, even if it is as mundane as sipping a lovely cup of coffee, taking a refreshing walk, enjoying the cool breeze. I do this not as a chore but something that has been bestowed on me. After all such small things are blessings too. Why do we always relegate our happiness to some future event? Moreover this exercise makes me feel more blessed and happier. Dr Wallace Wattles, the author of the best seller The science of getting rich says the more you feel gratitude the more blessings flow into your life, an action and reaction principle.
I hope that the above has given you an idea of what I do when I feel the situation is absolutely hopeless. Guess it would help you too.
Warm wishes
