Loving yourself
LOVING YOURSELF
Many psychologists have called this by another name - self image. Namely that when you feel good about yourself, what happens is the way the world treats you changes. Darn!! Sounds like a load of gaseous feel good stuff right?
Well I beg to disagree. I have seen evidence to the contrary and thereby make this statement. For eg there have been what society might generally terms as plain Janes but who carried themselves with so much poise that people all around were attracted to them like moths to a fire. There have been others much better looking but with such pathetic dispositions that people though initially attracted to their looks gave up soon because their interior was very different from their exterior.
Loving yourself is actually a very selfish act that you do for yourself because it frees you up to do things that have been holding you back and which might possibly give you a lot of enjoyment, Enough theory said, lets get down to some real life situations and see how you can do the same.
Your boss gets nasty with you and you are constantly hauled up for poor performance. Many things to hurt you are said and you feel very dejected.
Your parents keep taunting you and comparing you with your peers and keep telling how you have not measured up to their standards
Your friends indirectly taunt you for not having a sufficient bank balance.
People make fun of you for having some disagreeable physical features.
Let me suggest some practical techniques how you can overcome these obstacles and see how you can start loving yourself. What is the big point in loving yourself anyway? Simply this! The vibrations you put out dramatically increase which serves to attract more of lifes good things to you. In an article written by one of my mentors Mr David Cameron, I read that SHAME is the emotion that has the lowest vibrational value. And there IS a significant component of shame in you when you do not love yourself.
Now for the techniques:
a) I am a big believer in EFT alternatively called the Emotional freedom technique, this involves tapping in certain energy points so that negative emotions are BROUGHT UP and RESOLVED. For more details on how to apply this technique visit www.emofree.com EFT has been known to have humongous positive benefits and its extensiveness (the variety of problems it can solve) is also impressive.
b) When you deeply get the fact that we all are equal at the grass root level and that we DO NOT HAVE TO compare ourselves with others and that we are good as we are, we let off the steam and this frees us up. You can ask yourself that if you do not love yourself WHO WILL? In one of my previous articles What is your worth I gave a profound way of looking at oneself. I humbly request you to read it and am sure that you might like it.
c) Fix a target (whoever your role model is, or whatever your objective is) and strive towards reaching it with love. When I mean with love I mean embark on the journey with complete acceptance of self. This not only makes the journey emotionally easier but also does away with the SHAME factor that only makes the journey that much tougher.
I also recommend reading the book THE POWER OF NOW. Many things related to the self are very beautifully explained.
Thats about it. I did not intend making this topic very fluffy. Just some practical solutions that you can start using right away. Nothing very fancy, nothing very esoteric, nothing monumentally tough. Do let me know what you feel after applying all these three techniques together.
