The 14 mistakes to avoid while going for your dreams - Part 1
This topic is one of those closest to my heart and i put in serious effort in bringing it into this form. Having trodden this path most of my life, I feel I can offer so much in this regard. Without much fluff, here are a few mistakes if I might so call them to avoid, if you want to go after (and achieve) your dreams.
Not knowing what your dream is in the first place
The great Napoleon Hill had mentioned that a great percentage of people actually do not know what it is that they TRULY want. If this is your problem, I recommend that you buy a book called the SILVA MIND CONTROL METHOD FOR GETTING HELP FROM YOUR OTHER SIDE. Its truly an incredible book for enlisting support from your right brain hemisphere. There is a section on how you can tune into your intuition and get the answer from deep within so as to find out what your passion is. In case your one of those lucky individuals who knows what exactly his/her dream is, the following would help you immeasurably.
Thinking and totally believing the common mindset that you are not destined to be great
I tell you, this one might seem odd. I do not know much about other countries but in India this belief is a rampant one. I see so many people flocking to astrologers and the like in the quest to know what is in store for them. I do believe that astrology is based on science and yes there have truly been remarkable predictions that have come true. But why do we not look at the other side of it? There have been so many predictions regarding me that have never come to pass. Keeping all this in mind, I can safely tell you all never hand over your future to another person TOTALLY no matter how deeply they may have your interests at heart.
The last sentence might infuriate some. You cannot just afford to hand over something so magnificent (YOU) to another person. You are unique. You are the only one who knows what your desires are, what your goals are, what your deepest desires are!! Nobody else does! There ARE ALWAYS going to be ups and downs in life. Handing yourself over to someone else!! Do you realize how much you are telling yourself how weak and incapable you are? What a puppet you consider yourself to be?
Not really taking up responsibility
This is another mindset that needs to be eradicated from your psyche. It is so easy to tell others what a harsh hand life dealt on you. It feels nice to be pitied and have others say what happened was totally unfair, you deserve so much more, you are much better than xyz. I understand. I have been there too. But let me tell you that when time passes by and you see how others so much less talented than you are living far grander lives, all the pity that others have showered on you is not going to be worth even a rats tail. Neither are they going to compensate you in any way for your talent.
Keep in mind that more often than not, it is not the people with the best looks, or the most talent who make it big, but rather the ones who get the best in life are the ones who ask for it and go after it. So when they go after it regardless of what others say, it naturally means they have taken up full responsibility for their lives. I understand. You may not be in a position to go for your dreams now because of your various commitments. But adopting this mindset and drilling the fact into your psyche that I am responsible for what I get in life will make a sea change. Your attitude shifts from passive to active, from reactive-ness to pro-activeness , from a victim mentality to a conquering one. Are you getting the difference?
This will propel you to seek ways and means of making your life heaven on earth (more on the subconscious mind later). It will make your intentions clearer and more focused and directed and thereby your actions crisper, more meaningful and satisfying.
Believing in the I HAVE FINANCIAL CONSTRAINTS thingie
This is so pervasive that it demands a separate point. When you make it your intention to earn money by providing value, more will flow to you. Do read this sentence again and again because most people believe something totally different. They feel that somehow if they can lay hands on some very high paying job, they would work there till they are X years old and then leave it to actually do what they want. Nothing really criminal about this. The fact is very few people ever get to doing this and when they finally do it, all sorts of beliefs crop up. To name a few:
1. I think I am a little old now, the field is for youngsters.
2. I have enough money now, why venture into something new
3. What if I fail? Why make myself the laughing stock?
4. I have quite a bit and there are so many others who do not even have this much. I must learn to be satisfied with my lot
If some of you are thinking that your mind will not come up with such excuses think again. When we go to sleep at night so many of us are confident we would get up early and then do some brisk exercise but for many of us, it rarely happens. The mind is a marvel at convincing you to be in the comfort zone. For a thing like getting up in the morning that requires only a fraction of the effort (as compared to going after your dreams) when you can be convinced, well!! You get the picture.
So the solution is keep your eyes and ears open for any avenue where you feel you can provide value to people. I provide value through my website by inspiring many people and giving them the best entertainment that is possible by me. This is something I love to do. Else I would not be sitting and typing for hours on end. These days with the internet covering every corner of the globe, there are opportunities aplenty. One method of earning money is blogging. You might also love to teach. You might love talking to people and help them find homes, this business is particularly popular in Bombay wherein people are shown accommodation according to their tastes. Yes there are people who also cheat, but which business does not have them? Plus there are so many internet businesses available. Check for something that you truly love to do. You might spend time zeroing on it but believe me it is time well spent.
If nothing truly strikes you, do visit www.learnmindpower.com . It has had a profound effect on my life.
Once this is done, you can take a call on how you can go after your dreams with wasting any more time. Time is priceless my friend . get there quickly.
Procrastination
I know! I know! You are bored listening to this word. Please bear with me. I shall make this as short as possible. Just visualize this:
You are in the evening of your life and suddenly you are gripped with a wave of yearning that is quite inexplicable. You either meet or see someone doing what you wanted to do who had come from a poorer background but had made it thro dint of sheer focus. The wave of yearning becomes bigger and bigger till you are hardly able to take it. Every time you think of it, there is a sadness that envelopes you when you think that might be, just might be had you not delayed and not wasted time on frivolous things, you could have gotten where you had wanted to. Time in fact just flew by and before you knew it you are in the evening of your life. Now the intention and the yearning is there, but your health and opportunities would not permit. You pass the rest of your days in silent agony and prefer not to even talk about it to anyone because the very mention of it triggers feelings so painful which you can very well do without. You die a sad man knowing that when finally you have come to believe in your purpose and are ready to do whatever it takes, your days are already over.And All that stood between what you wanted to become and what you have in fact become is perhaps just one word. PROCRASTINATION.
Nice feeling ? You decide.
Fear
When I was in college around 6 years back, I did have some friends who were exceptionally talented artistically, some in music, some in acting and some in writing. Given a choice, they would never have got into corporate jobs that they say sapped their spirit. But there was one factor that overrode everything. Fear! Fear of the unknown, fear of the temporary struggle that they would have to undergo, fear of failure, fear of what face they would have to show society. This fear can only be conquered with one ingredient. It is so important that it is worth cultivating and demands a separate article. When that is internalized, it is much easier to handle fear. Do read the subsequent article too.
Addiction to luxury
When most of us finish our education, we are brainwashed into thinking that going out and getting a job is the most logical thing to do. We do exactly that and soon get addicted to our so called comforts like the house the company provides, the fixed salary that comes every month, the status and identity we enjoy in society. If you love every aspect of your job, that is great. But let me share something with you.
In the years I have asked so many people, most of them told me that felt it was a compulsion, some were indifferent (numbed to the monotony I guess) and some have said they really loved their job. When I asked them, if you were not paid money, would you still be doing what you are doing? The answer was a resounding NO. I am a singer and I love singing. I do it just for the sheer joy of it. Yes, I do get paid, but even if people offer me a lot of money to work for someone, I would not.Helping people is my passion, I love doing that. I have extended help (unasked) to numerous people most of whom do not even remember me. I have not got a dime for it. Does not matter.So coming back to our point, you must be temporarily willing to let go of some things society considers important for you. In my opinion, the fact that you must give your value to the world, and have a thoroughly satisfying life is immeasurably more important than the luxuries that come along with doing something which feels empty for you. You will get those luxuries anyway when you make it.
